LoveABLE

I have not been able to put this book down since it arrived in the shop! Love’ABLE’ is an amazing memoir of a woman coming into her own and choosing to stop people pleasing and allow herself to be free of all its heaviness. Letting go of the good girl vs bad girl scenario that plagued her whole life and following her own heart despite what others may think. Having gone through a similar situation myself that was steeped in beliefs and trauma from my childhood I absolutely can relate to Amber’s writing. We often have no idea how much our mind and body try to protect us when we feel unsafe as a child and how that can shape our subconscious beliefs as adults. We create scenarios and memories of what happened to us that make us feel as if we had control over our situations and were able to protect ourselves however this is not the reality once we actually start to let ourselves fully process these situations. Coming back into wholeness with who we actually are as opposed to what the outside world has placed upon us. Letting go so that our inner child can feel safe with us knowing that we can now give ourselves what we did not receive when we were young.

I would also like to recognize her bringing to light what I have also said in the past. Our society makes us grow up thinking that dysfunctional marriages are better than no marriage at all or divorcing and re-marrying (especially when their are children involved) but I can attest through my own personal experience as well as Amber’s that this is simply not true. When we let go of a relationship that has run its course we not only open ourselves up to the next part of our journey but we do the same for our partner. Allowing each person to find what is meant them and allowing our children to see healthy dynamics between partners that we want for them in the future. It is time for us to re-evaluate old societal beliefs to question what feels right for us not just blindly following along with “the way things have always been.” Stop yourself when you find that you are falling into these holes and ask yourself- “does this feel right to me?” If the answer is not that’s all you need. You are not responsible for others beliefs about your life. It’s your life not theirs. You are the main character in this book and you get to decide how you write the story, not society.

All my love,